This is a real feeling. Being lonely. Being in a grief storm. To feel that no one cares. “Why doesn’t anyone check on me? My friends are not calling, texting or inviting me places. Why doesn’t anyone give a rip about me?”
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👉The bad news:
NO ONE IS COMING FOR YOU.
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👉The good-ish news:
(BECAUSE) THEY DON’T KNOW YOU ARE “MISSING.”
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The #Truth is that people don’t reach out for many reasons.
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Most likely, people are busy with their own lives. I know my #same24hours are full, and yours are too. We are busy. It’s hard to remember everyone outside the immediate circle. That’s a truth, and people should be given grace for that small fact.
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But the big one: others don’t reach out because we (lonely ones) are too busy acting like life is great.
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We’re posting pictures of awesomeness. Smiles. “Perfect” kids and glossy lips. Coffees and perfectly curated homes, meals and whatever.
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So: if we are projecting that we (and our worlds) are 100% FINE, how will anyone know we are in need of anything? How will anyone know we are lonely?
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Another hard thing is that sometimes when people are hurting (and it’s obvious), others don’t reach out because they have no idea what to say.
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But hold up.
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Because THIS is the behavior we must to stop.
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If you KNOW someone is suffering, going through pain and loss, and YOU (as the knowing person) don’t reach out because you “don’t know what to say”?
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That is NONSENSE.
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We must set aside this ego. Send a text. Call. Message. Say, “I am thinking about you.” Something. And then do it every time you DO think of them (within reason that won’t get you arrested).
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So in summary: two types of #Nonsense here.
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And both involve communication.
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💚Tell others you are hurting, so they know.
💙Say/Do/Provide/Mean/Share something to others when you know they are hurting.
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Imagine what a world that would be, if we operated on those two principles.
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I’ll start: Today, I am struggling with feeling like I matter. So many words and files. I feel like I scream into the void sometimes. That it’s all a wordy waste. While not “true,” (I know)… that’s just today.
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And just speaking that makes me feel better. So thanks for listening.
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